Archive for July, 2014

Getting a little personal…

Written by Lyndi. Posted in About Me, Health & Wellness, Kids & Family Life, Life Coaching

I had a lady once tell me that she didn't think it was fair that my life was so easy, with the perfect little family and no problems.  She said this to me in a very mean, disrespectful way and all I wanted to do was roll my eyes and punch her in the face... but instead my eyes filled up with tears.  Before reacting to her,  I thought to myself that if she had any idea of the struggles that I've faced throughout my life, she would never of said that to me.  Instead, she would probably hug me, bring me dinner, fold all my laundry, rub my feet and watch my kids for a week :) .  I held back from punching her and I just smiled and said "my life isn't even close to perfect", and then changed the subject.

Although I feel incredibly blessed with the life I have been given, I could write a very long list about all the things that have gone wrong.  I could talk about these things for days and months and I'm sure I would get some sweet sympathy out of it.  Of course I would never do that because I know that negativity and complaining only brings out more sadness and more problems.  I have worked so hard to get to where I am today.  It's been a tough road, but now I can say that I have gotten past my insecurities, have let things go from my past and have deleted the desire to please others when it's not in my best interest.  I have forgiven people who have done me wrong and I've gotten to a place where I can listen to my inner voice and be guided by it on a daily basis.  I decided a few years ago that I wanted an extremely fulfilling life and mediocrity was not acceptable.  I wanted to be a positive, happy, successful, kind and loving person no matter what came along.  It's a challenge to live this way at times, but I find life so rewarding because of it.  I definitely fail over and over again, but I never think of myself as a failure.  I am very patient with myself and I try to learn and grow from each negative or positive experience that comes my way.  So today I've decided to blog about staying positive, even when things get tough and you feel there is no hope.

Through all of my trials, I have learned a thing or two or three or four...these are crucial in finding happiness and joy within yourself.

1.  Never and yes I mean NEVER say anything bad about yourself.   I don't care if it's true or not,  but do not do it!  Not even if you are joking or being sarcastic, because your body doesn't know the difference.  I promise this will change your mood, your day and your life.  You will find this very difficult at first, but just try to notice all the times that you would say something negative about yourself and stop yourself before it comes out of your beautiful mouth! I believe that if you tell yourself you are fat, then you will be.  If you tell yourself that you are a bad mom, then you will be.  If you tell yourself that you are freaking awesome then YOU WILL BE!  This is where number two comes in...

2.  I AM statements.  This is when you tell yourself "I AM happy", "I AM healthy", "I AM motivated", "I AM patient", "I AM a great runner (one I've been working on)".  Even if these aren't true, (most of mine aren't true at the time) still say them and repeat them a few times a day.  Anything that you want to do or become, say it in this order I AM...and fill in the blank.  What happens is your brain tells your body what to do, and you tell your brain what to do.  I know it sounds a little cooky, but it works!!  I do this every single day, especially before bed because if you say your I AM statements right before you are about to go to sleep, then it stays in your subconscious the entire night and therefore comes to reality much quicker.   I use this tool with my kids on a daily basis too...if they are being mean to their sibling, or if they have a bad attitude, I make them repeat after me and I tell them what to say.  For example, "I AM nice to my brother", "I AM smart", or "I AM amazing at cleaning my room".  It changes their attitude almost every single time.  Also, you can never say I AM NOT something...it can only be a positive sentence. 

3.  Take a complement!!!  When someone says "you look so nice today", you say "awww...thanks so much" or "that's nice of you to say" even if you don't feel like you look nice...It will feel awkward at first to talk this way, but you'll get used to it.   Never, never, NEVER say "No I don't...This outfit is old, my hair is dirty and I ran out of my good makeup so you can see all my ugly wrinkles, I feel fat in these clothes, and look how giant this zit is on my cheek and oh my heck look at my nails...and don't even get me started on how messy my house is!!"  We are all guilty of doing this, but the end result is sadness.  Please just LOVE yourself.  I promise this will trickle down into all aspects of your life and it WILL make you a happier person. 

4.  My mom would always say, "there is only one rule and that is Be Kind"...it seems like everything important falls under that category.  Even if it seems like someone has the perfect, ideal life...they don't.  EVERYONE is struggling with something and you never know what kind of chaos is happening around them...so be kind and patient to anyone you come in contact with.  Keep this in mind when you are driving and someone cuts you off, in the check out line behind the lady with 100 coupons, when you see someone who looks scary, or someone who is drop dead gorgeous (yes, they have feelings too), to your neighbors and definitely to all of your loved ones (which sometimes seems to be the hardest).   A smile and a simple hello is all someone might need to make their day drastically better.  When you live your life this way the kindness will circle back around to you and you will have blessings beyond your comprehension. 

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I was feeling a little down as I drove home from the gym this morning, but not really sure why.  Was it because of the insane ass kicking that I had just received in my favorite boot camp class??...or from lack of sleep, or just the fact that life seems to be so hard lately.   At the same time of feeling lost and ready to give up, I looked up into the sky and saw the most beautiful dark clouds with a glorious light shining through them.  I quickly grabbed my phone and snapped this picture.  I instantly felt my Heavenly Fathers overwhelming love for me and the thought came to me, When darkness surrounds you, be the light that shines through it...for all of the world to see.  I want to be that light.  I hope to be that light.  I AM that light. 

I wish for happiness, peace and love in each of your lives.

Love, Lyndi

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30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself! Best List EVER!

Written by Lyndi. Posted in Health & Wellness, Life Coaching

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If you want to be happy and find pure joy in your life, then follow this list!  Start by working on one of these everyday...I promise that it will change your life!!  As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.

  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.

  11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

  16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

  18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.

  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done.

  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.

  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.

  28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

  30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

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First Day of School Signs {free printable download} Preschool – Senior Year **UPDATED**

Written by Lyndi. Posted in Free Printables, Graphic Design, Kids & Family Life

This is a great way to document your child's first day of school, and when your sweet kids are grown and gone these first day of school signs in the pictures will help you remember how old they were.  I created these from ages preschool through senior year!! Download for free below.  You can print them on an 8.5x11 or 11x14 (pictured).

first day of school signsI am so in love with these two preschoolers! Lucy finally (by the skin of her teeth) gets to go to preschool this year with her big sis and she is beyond excited!! Although it was very difficult to have 3 kids in 3 years I absolutely love their closeness in age now! It sure makes things fun, crazy and our days full of girly screams (especially Max). 

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It took Lucy a minute to get the confidence to go in the door...as you can see Millie Kate is giving her the "get over it already and come on" look.first day of school picture
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 Max started first grade...WOW! I can't believe my little side kick will be away from me all day long.  It will be an adjustment to say the least!  I love this boy and on his second day of school he said "mom, I really am starting to enjoy school".  What a stud he is! first day of school first grade

Millie HAD to come with us on his first day to wish him well.sibling love first day of school

Then there were the 12 year olds...man oh man!  How did they get this old? Jayce is my nephew, but I like to call him my fifth child.  Him and Madison are the same age and they go to school together.  Makes this mama happy knowing that Jayce is there to take care of anyone who messes with my girl :) . first day of school printable signprintable download free first day of schoolthe kids on their first day of school breakfast before the first day of school

Happy first day of school to all of my friends out there! I hope for many successful days ahead for your kiddos and lots of fun lunches out with girlfriends for all of the moms!

 

Preschool through Senior Year

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