My Life…

Written by Lyndi. Posted in About Me

Hey there my fellow there anyone still out there?!?  Apparently I decided to take the first few weeks of summer off from blogging!  I've been in party mode with my kids being home and we have been going non stop.  We have been swimming, staying up late, partying with friends, traveling and I've been trying to work in between all of that!  Here are a few hightlights of my life the past few weeks!

First, we had our annual last day of school party with our awesome friends!! Thanks to my BFF Kristin for hosting! 


The swimming suit is the only outfit we have been wearing lately


Madison perfected the hair flip


 Max had basketball camp and him and his friend Chase are planning to be famous one day


I took Madison and a few of her friends on a road trip to see Taylor Swifts RED TOUR!  It was so much fun!  We shopped, ate the best food and went swimming!  Taylor Swift was completely entertaining and we had a blast!


 My mom came along for the ride and I'm so glad that she did!


 Did I mention that I went shopping? Well, I wish I would've shopped here!


The girls trying on their first pair of 6 inch heels


 While we were on our trip Max lost his two front teeth!! Sooo cute!


This summer I have been trying to have a lot of one on one time with my kids.  This day was Madison's date and she wanted to bring a few of her friends along.  We ate lunch then came home and made cupcakes and had a dance party.  Yep, this is the life!!


 Later in the week we went to check out the new Wet n' Wild in Las Vegas!  It was so much fun and yes, I went on all the slides with the kids!  Made me feel young again...and that is a great feeling since I turned the big 34 this week.  I'm getting older, but feeling so much wiser too.  Life is good. 



Max’s Adoption Story…

Written by Lyndi. Posted in About Me, Kids & Family Life

I believe that adoption is the most amazing of miracles.  I know that Heavenly Father has a specific plan for each one of us.  There is always a reason why things happen exactly how they do.  In my case, I know that I couldn't get pregnant for so long because I was supposed to adopt Max and he was meant to be my son.   I realize now that he needed to come through someone else for certain reasons too.

Three years after my husband and I were married, we had our first baby girl Madison.  I got pregnant easily with her and although I gained fifty pounds, had toxemia and the labor was 18 hours of pure torturous hell,  I still felt so lucky and happy to be a mommy.   When we started trying for a second baby it wasn't as easy...after three years of tests, meds and doctors I said,"why the hell am I doing this?" and I knew that adoption was the answer.  I was so excited for this process, it just felt right.  We didn't know what to expect...most adoption agencies said the average wait time was between 3-36 months.  The unknown was the hardest thing to deal with for me...I like to be prepared and I couldn't prepare for this.  Once we got our paperwork into the agency, they called us 3 days later and said our baby will be here in 2 weeks!  I couldn't believe it...they told us it would be one of three babies, so we weren't sure if it was a boy or a girl.  This process was sooo fast and two days after we got that call from the agency, I had an intense spiritual experience and I knew that this baby was meant to be mine and I knew he was coming very soon.  The following day we got a call and they told us that our baby was born (10 days early) and we needed to drive to Salt Lake City right away!  We grabbed some clothes, took Madison to grandmas house and went on our way.  

When we arrived to the hospital I wasn't really sure what to expect.  We had never talked to Max's birth mom before and I was very nervous for this meeting...I just didn't know what to say.   What do you say to someone in this situation?  She had made a completely selfless choice on choosing adoption over abortion or keeping the baby.  She was in a position where she couldn't take care of another baby, but her choice to place Max up for adoption was very difficult for her.  I felt pure joy in my heart for this special moment of meeting our sweet boy for the first time, but I also felt incredible sadness for Max's birth mom.  We met and she was very sweet.  She was the first person to hold Max and feed him his first bottle.  I tried my best to tell her how grateful we were for her choice and how much we will love and adore this precious gift that she had given us.   We still communicate, but on a rare occasion...I look forward to the day that we will see her again.  

When Max was nine months old, I found out I was pregnant...I was in utter shock.  The doctors had told me the chances were very slim to ever get pregnant again...but I was!  Millie Kate was born and we called her our miracle baby, but then when she was nine months old I got pregnant AGAIN!  Lucy was born in September of that point, I had 3 kids 3 years old and under.  It was a huge adjustment and we only had one goal and that was survival :) .  We did survive and feel so blessed to have these precious little spirits to raise and take care of.  

I have always had a sweet feeling about adoption and I have seen the miracle of adoption happen in several peoples lives and I am absolutely in love with the process.  If you are contemplating adopting or placing your baby for adoption I suggest that you do it.  It won't be easy...there will be a lot of ups and downs during the process, but the end result will be worth every heart ache.  I am very open to Max about his adoption.  He understands and has a healthy attitude about it.  When he was two years old, he said "I'm chocolate cause I love to drink chocolate milk so much".  He's never has had a negative experience about being black when we are white.  It really is a non issue.  When he was first learning to understand that our skin was different, I would tell him that we are all different...just like ice cream flavors.  We call Max-chocolate,  Madison-strawberry,  Millie-chocolate chip (cause she was born with jet black hair), and Lucy-prailines and cream.  Yeah, I like Ice Cream so I can relate anything to it!! 

I love Max the same way that I love the girls I gave birth to...there is no difference in how I raise them or treat them.  I love this boy with all of my heart and soul.  He is funny, sweet, loving, patient and can brighten anyones day with his big smile.  I feel so lucky to be his mommy, to have him beg to sleep with me every night, to have him run and jump in my arms when I pick him up from school, and to have him make me laugh hysterically every single day.  I am so incredibly blessed.  5169_107571680801_7442737_nimgs67vr.ashx2740_75163440801_6242212_n5169_107571635801_2302219_n31288_422437180801_4239329_n8819_173154055801_7679309_n8819_173154040801_3830157_n33809_10150104527815802_530374_n



My favorite picture of my crazy week…

Written by Lyndi. Posted in About Me

It's been a week full of moving, cleaning, unpacking, eating out, staying up late, waking up early and drinking a lot of caffeine! We threw all the rules out the window this week and this picture of Lucy shows that....yep, we let her watch Dora :) .  I'll be back to posting more's Max's 6th birthday this week and I will be posting all about the story of his adoption.  It's a good one...stay tuned!!



The happenings of my life…

Written by Lyndi. Posted in About Me

The past few weeks has been filled with non stop fun and craziness.  We are currently in the process of moving (more to come on that later) but we have also had a lot of play time are a few highlights!

First, it was my turn to help in Max's class and Lucy came along.  She absolutely loved it...this little chick is ready for kindergarten already! 

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She was so good at being my helper that we HAD to go get cupcakes afterwards!!  Maybe it was more for me than her though...



 Then, Captain America and Spider Karate guy came for a visit at my house!  They make me laugh so much!


 Oh and how can I forget that Max snuck bacon into church...yep, in his pockets!


After 12 years of me only having babies in my family, I finally got another nephew and I am in LOVE!  He has the sweetest spirit about him and we celebrated with a party on his blessing day!

IMG_9397P1000098This is me, my mom, and my two them!  

P1000109I love this pic of my gorgeous and sweet mom holding baby Zayden...really shows how tiny he is!
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 Last week Madison (my 12 year old) asked me if I would take her and her friends out on Friday night...I thought to myself "really? You wanna hang with your momma on Friday night?" I said yes and it was a complete blast...the talk of boys was a little overwhelming and I did have to pop a few Advil, but it was a total fun party being with these girls!  Oh and that last pic is of me practicing my back out world!  or ER :) !




The Reason Why…

Written by Lyndi. Posted in About Me, Health & Wellness, Interior Design, Life Coaching

Today, you are going to learn a little more about why I am who I am and where I get my inspiration from.  

I had a good childhood, an incredibly sweet and loving mom,  two very protective older brothers (who would gladly beat up any boy that would look at me) and a sweet younger sister that I was very close to.  I was independent and mature for my age as a teenager.  I got my first official job at 14 (had to lie about my age to get it), bought my first car at 15, finished high school at 16, was going to college at 17 and got married at 18.  Oh my GOODNESS, is that crazy?!? By the way, I do not recommend that for anyone!

Throughout my life, I have always had a very special person to encourage, teach, inspire and love was my auntie Kathy.   Her husband passed away when she was pregnant with her first baby, so she was a single mom and I was able to spend countless summers and holidays with her and her son Tyler.  They lived in California and I lived in Utah, but she would have me come stay with her for weeks at a time.  During those visits, she would make me feel like I was the most important person in the world to her (I realize now that she did this with all of her nieces and nephews).   She taught me to be responsible for my actions, to be strong, to not be taken advantage of, to persevere, to delay gratification (her favorite term) to be emotionally healthy, to read self help books and most of all to laugh and have fun!   

When I became a wife and a mom,  she was always the one that I would get advice from...she knew what to do in EVERY situation.  I was incredibly close to her and I knew that no matter what mistakes I would make she would still love me, be there for me and tell me how to fix it, even if I didn't ask.  

About 5 years ago she moved to Utah, bought a new house and she wanted me to help her design and decorate it from top to bottom...of course I said YES!  The idea of hanging out with her for a week, plus buying new furniture and decor sounded like heaven.  Throughout the week of decorating, she said multiple times "you are good at this" and "you should do this professionally".  She told everyone in the family and all of her freinds that she thought I should be an interior designer...of course I liked that idea, but I didn't think it was even a possiblilty at the time.     

A few months after her house was complete and beyond beautiful, we found out that she had cancer.  She has always had great strength and determination, so I was completely convinced that she would kick cancers ass...but for once in my life, I was wrong.  She passed away 6 weeks later...It all happened so fast and I was devastated to say the least, but I also felt an incredible calmness about it.  I knew she was finally with her husband again in heaven and she was feeling no more pain or discomfort.

Since her passing, I have had an intense desire to become more like her.  After a long, challenging road of getting passed all of my insecurities I think I have finally figured out who I really am, what I can become and what my purpose is in this life.  I make decisions based on what I feel is right and not what other people think I should be doing.  It is a WONDERFUL place to be and I highly recommend it! 

I know that God lives and loves me and I feel him guiding me in my life every single day.  I believe that we all have angels that are constantly surrounding us and lifting us up when we need it and even when we don't.  I know that my Aunt Kathy is one of my angels.  She had so much encouragement and faith in me and I can now see how her hand has strongly guided me to the direction of Interior Design and writing this blog. 

She will always be a huge part of my life and whenever I am struggling with a situation, I think to myself "What would Kathy do?" and I instantly know what she would say.  I love and miss her dearly.   


Thanksgiving 2008 - I can't believe how much younger I look only five years ago



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